This is Elizabeth Bennet (*Lizzie*) - she is the main character in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice. I always admired her demeanor and grounded disposition. She was never afraid to speak her mind in matters that required it and although makes mistakes, she learns well from them. Her character displays an independent attitude with a unique personality.

Being in my gap year is totally different to school where your being constantly guided by teachers. Similarly to those in university or starting a new job, the atmosphere and pressures change.

So to me being independent is a vital step in understanding how to deal with these pressures and how to be more confident in doing what you do and your decisions.

1. Know your boundaries and when to say No - In the real world there will always be pressures from others that might force you to do/think of something you don't want to. Being in this situation can be uncomfortable. So know your limits and make sure you enforce them. Don't be afraid to say no, as you have the control over your life not them. Even if it may sound harsh, its best to be direct rather than shying away from the answer. 
2. Its Okay to be Selfish sometimes - from my experience its absolutely fine to have more time for yourself. Even if it means sacrificing your socializing time, as although it can make you seem isolated its actually giving you a breathing space to reflect on your goals and what you need to do to constantly improve yourself. This will make you a more set and focused individual.
3. Be confident - Before I used to be shy and fear for the worst in every situation. this made me avoid all types of interactive activities or socializing. But making your voice heard, asking clear questions and pushing yourself forward in things you would normally be more scared to do, develops you as a person. It makes you feel stronger and get what you want. Although initially  it will be hard, the more you do it, the more easier it gets. 
4. Be organised and up to date - Organising your papers, room, handbag and studies can make you feel more reassured. Also being more up to date with current affairs will always make you aware of whats going on, and any events that may be coming up. I read the newspapers and also law blogs. This can be useful for topic of conversation but also to know any future dates.